What is the Difference Between Attraction and Predation?
In the beginning, your partner listens, remembers details, and says that “you’re the one”. But is he inviting you to choose him—or making it harder for you to choose otherwise? Learn how to distinguish attraction from a setup by looking at how someone responds to your choices and what they do when you say no.
The Cornell Rape Case: What Happened to the Evidence?
After 28 years in law enforcement, I have questions about how the alleged Cornell fraternity rape case was investigated. Prosecutors say they never saw the group chat now at the center of a civil lawsuit. What happened to the evidence?
Important Ways that PTSD Affects Your Conscious Mind
For years, I lived with dissociation caused by PTSD and didn’t know what it was. Here’s how PTSD can affect your awareness—even when you think you’re doing “just fine.”.
Why Trauma Impacts Clear Thinking: What You Need to Know
Trauma impacts clear thinking in ways nobody sees. From the outside, it looks like someone who can’t make up her mind. But on the inside, she’s running threat assessments all day on a partner who isn’t even in the room. Here’s why abuse and trauma hijack attention and how to start taking it back.
What You Need to Know: Can an Abuser Get His Gun Back After a Restraining Order?
A restraining order does not guarantee that an abuser’s firearms have been removed—or that a gun that’s already confiscated by authorities won’t be returned. Four cases show the gap between the legal order and enforcing the actual process.
7 Important Signs of Coercive Control You Need to Know
It’s hard to spot from the outside, and often invisible to the person living inside it. Here are 7 signs of coercive control to recognize, how it affects victims…and how to get support.
Feeling Mind Fucked in Your Relationship? Here’s Why
You know that feeling after an argument when you can’t even tell what just happened, or what you even said? There’s a word for what that is. And It isn’t a misunderstanding — it’s deliberate. Here’s how to recognize it.
What Is a Psychephile? The Abuser You’ve Never Heard Of.
It might not be love. It might be research. Meet the psychephile — a dangerous type of abuser who studies your mind so they can control it.
Why Staying Strong Is a Safety Strategy for Women
I’m 71, and staying strong is one of the most intentional things I do for my own safety. And, as a deputy sheriff, Joy has been in more fights than she can count. Here’s why strength belongs in every woman’s safety plan — at every age.
The Trap of Gaslighting and Bad Faith Arguments in Relationships
Some people play dirty during an argument. They aren’t arguing to convince you, they’re deliberately looking to confuse and wear you down. There’s a term for it: bad faith arguing and it’s a Trap. Learn the tactics and keep yourself sane.