7 Important Signs of Coercive Control You Need to Know
It’s hard to spot from the outside, and often invisible to the person living inside it. Here are 7 signs of coercive control to recognize, how it affects victims…and how to get support.
Feeling Mind Fucked in Your Relationship? Here’s Why
You know that feeling after an argument when you can’t even tell what just happened, or what you even said? There’s a word for what that is. And It isn’t a misunderstanding — it’s deliberate. Here’s how to recognize it.
What Is a Psychephile? The Abuser You’ve Never Heard Of.
It might not be love. It might be research. Meet the psychephile — a dangerous type of abuser who studies your mind so they can control it.
The Trap of Gaslighting and Bad Faith Arguments in Relationships
Some people play dirty during an argument. They aren’t arguing to convince you, they’re deliberately looking to confuse and wear you down. There’s a term for it: bad faith arguing and it’s a Trap. Learn the tactics and keep yourself sane.
When Being in Therapy Hasn’t “Fixed” Your Relationship
You’ve kept every appointment. You’ve read the books, worked on your communication, your codependency, your boundaries. And somehow, therapy still isn’t fixing your relationship. Maybe the focus has been on the wrong person in the relationship.
Patterns of Abusive Behavior: The Sequence is the Weapon
Patterns of abuse aren’t just a list of bad behaviors. They’re a sequence — and each behavior gets its power from its position in the order. Why most safety advice misses what’s actually happening.
What Is a Trauma Bond? What You Need to Know
Why would someone love a person who hurts her? It’s important to know that she isn’t weak and it isn’t love. It’s a trauma bond – a manufactured attachment. There’s a lot of misunderstanding about it. Here’s what you need to know.
Dictators Perfected This Mind Control Tactic. Abusers Use It Too
Does your partner constantly criticize you? Are you starting think that maybe they’re right? Here’s what’s really happening: he isn’t just ‘correcting’ you. He’s controlling you. And once you get used to it, he doesn’t need to say a word – because you’ll do it to yourself. This is what mind control looks like and it’s the same in regimes and relationships.
What Makes a Skilled Abuser? Inside Don Hennessy’s Framework
Researcher Don Hennessy spent four decades working with both abusers and survivors — and what he found challenges everything we think we know. Not all abusive men operate the same way, and the difference between a skilled abuser and an unskilled one may be the most important thing that women and professionals aren’t being taught.
Why Does She Stay? Regrooming in the Bedroom
Everyone asks why she stays. But it’s the wrong question. Before the first act of violence, a skilled abuser customizes a performance built to be irresistible to her. She didn’t fall in love with him. She fell in love with the lie. Understanding how that lie is maintained changes everything about how we see her choice to stay.