Feeling Mind Fucked in Your Relationship? Here’s Why
You know that feeling after an argument when you can’t even tell what just happened, or what you even said? There’s a word for what that is. And It isn’t a misunderstanding — it’s deliberate. Here’s how to recognize it.
What Is a Psychephile? The Abuser You’ve Never Heard Of.
It might not be love. It might be research. Meet the psychephile — a dangerous type of abuser who studies your mind so they can control it.
When Being in Therapy Hasn’t “Fixed” Your Relationship
You’ve kept every appointment. You’ve read the books, worked on your communication, your codependency, your boundaries. And somehow, therapy still isn’t fixing your relationship. Maybe the focus has been on the wrong person in the relationship.
Patterns of Abusive Behavior: The Sequence is the Weapon
Patterns of abuse aren’t just a list of bad behaviors. They’re a sequence — and each behavior gets its power from its position in the order. Why most safety advice misses what’s actually happening.
What Is a Trauma Bond? What You Need to Know
Why would someone love a person who hurts her? It’s important to know that she isn’t weak and it isn’t love. It’s a trauma bond – a manufactured attachment. There’s a lot of misunderstanding about it. Here’s what you need to know.
What Makes a Skilled Abuser? Inside Don Hennessy’s Framework
Researcher Don Hennessy spent four decades working with both abusers and survivors — and what he found challenges everything we think we know. Not all abusive men operate the same way, and the difference between a skilled abuser and an unskilled one may be the most important thing that women and professionals aren’t being taught.
“Trauma Bond”: Myths and Realities
You’ve heard the term. But what nobody tells you: the way most people use ‘trauma bond’ blames the wrong person. In this article, we break down the science, the research, and the missing piece that changes everything.
Why Does She Stay? Regrooming in the Bedroom
Everyone asks why she stays. But it’s the wrong question. Before the first act of violence, a skilled abuser customizes a performance built to be irresistible to her. She didn’t fall in love with him. She fell in love with the lie. Understanding how that lie is maintained changes everything about how we see her choice to stay.
6-Step Mirror Work for Survivors: Reclaim Your Mind from Abuse
You’re replaying conversations, second-guessing everything, hearing criticism in a voice that sounds like yours but isn’t. This isn’t overthinking. It may be evidence that your inner world has been colonized. Here are 6 steps to disrupt the occupation and reclaim your mind – even if you’re not ready to name what’s happening yet.
Does Evil Exist in the Context of Abuse? Research Says Yes
Can you commit evil without being evil? Hannah Arendt grappled with this when she witnessed Adolf Eichmann’s trial and coined the phrase ‘the banality of evil.’ But domestic abuse perpetrators aren’t thoughtless bureaucrats. Don Hennessy’s research shows they’re strategic, calculating, and fully aware. The question isn’t whether evil exists in abuse. It’s whether we have the courage to call it by its real name.